这届年轻人找对象，最看重的竟是这一点？

2022.08.04
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难度：CSE6
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又到七夕了，很多人会在这一天翻着花样秀恩爱：收到的礼物、接受的告白，都要发出来晒一晒。然而，现在有一批年轻人，最让他们引以为傲的，却不是约会对象的迷人多金、幽默体贴，而是对方的心理健康状况。为什么心理健康会成为人们选择伴侣的首选项？情绪稳定，对于一段亲密关系会带来怎样的帮助？一起来听今天的讲解。

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本篇课程首发于2022年8月4日

英文原文

Seeking Relationship, Therapy Required

By Alyson Krueger

Like most daters, Elyse Fox, 32, is looking for a partner who is kind, attractive, smart and funny. But she has one nonnegotiable: He must be working on his mental health.

Gen-Z are much more likely to seek mental health help than older generations, according to a 2018 survey by the American Psychological Association. The pandemic also brought mental health even more into the mainstream, making it something people talk about openly.

Some of this is now trickling into dating. Many singles, rather than looking for someone of a certain height or a particular profession, are now saying they want someone who works on their mental health.

They are advertising their requirements on their dating profiles. In 2021 the mention of therapy in Tinder members’ bios increased 25 percent, according to the company.

Monifa Brooks, 28, saw what therapy did for her after starting sessions during the pandemic. “I learned how to communicate my needs and not be scared,” she said. “I used to struggle with setting boundaries because I am a pleaser, especially when I was dating, and now I am better at it.”

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你有你的铜枝铁干，
像刀，像剑，
也像戟；
我有我红硕的花朵，
像沉重的叹息，
又像英勇的火炬。
我们分担寒潮、风雷、霹雳；
我们共享雾霭、流岚、虹霓。
仿佛永远分离，
却又终身相依。
这才是伟大的爱情，
坚贞就在这里：
爱——
不仅爱你伟岸的身躯，
也爱你坚持的位置，足下的土地。
——《致橡树》（节选）舒婷